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I know what you’re thinking…
Finally! A step-by-step guide to being LESS popular than I already am! This is what I’ve been waiting for!
What can I say?! You speak, I listen.
Stay with me for a few minutes. I promise, there’s something to this…
Did you ever wish you were popular back in high school? Maybe you were popular back in high school?
What did that mean? High school popularity usually entails fitting in, doing the same things and going to the same places the other kids did and went.
As the well-adjusted adults we’ve all become (right?!), we know that popularity shouldn’t be an issue anymore, but it’s SO EASY to give in to common convention or to make apologies for carrying on our lives differently than our peers.
Please be encouraged to define your family’s own guidelines, with a basis in your faith, but tailored to what your own priorities and goals are!
Here are 5 ideas to get you started:
Do not sign every school permission form that your child brings home.
Whether it’s for a field trip, an extracurricular activity, or a special class or tutoring opportunity, you don’t HAVE TO participate! First, take the time to measure the proposed benefit of the activity against your family’s goals. If it measures up, go for it! If not, decline and don’t feel the need to over-explain your decision.
Do not go on vacation every summer.
I mean, you can, but don’t make it a given! You and your spouse need to evaluate the family’s emotional (as in “We need a mental health break now!”) and financial situation each year, and be willing to adapt summer plans accordingly. There are many low-cost, family-friendly vacation/staycation options that can save you a lot of heartache down the road, just by being open to changing your plans!
Do be jealous of your time.
Read here for tips on creating “margin” in your calendar. Be mindful about your daily schedule and don’t worry about what your friends are doing with their time. Make sure your family’s schedule feels balanced and that you don’t feel too rushed to be able help others when the need unexpectedly arises!
Do explore different educational options for your kids.
People have strong opinions about placing their kiddos in public, private or home school. And they should! Don’t automatically send your child to the school closest to your home (although that may end up being the best fit!) Research and follow your gut on what’s best for your own kids. Be open to change as your child moves through their school-aged years. What works for elementary school may not be the best option for the upper grades!
Do go to church.
Or temple. Or the lodge. The point is if you are interested in raising your kids to value your beliefs…you need to value your beliefs! Let your child’s soccer coach know up front that you are not available on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights, for example. We’ve done it, and I promise, the sky will not fall and your family will gain the respect of others for being consistent and convicted!
Being “consciously unpopular” is a very empowering process. What have you done lately to be unpopular?
“Do not love the world or the things in the world.” 1 John 2:15a
Gracia y paz,
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